Adult Family + Multi-Partner Therapy
When several people are part of the relationship, it can be difficult to understand what's happening when everyone is in the room at once. Sometimes the conflict is between adult family members. Sometimes it's a polycule, a multi-partner relationship, or another multi-adult system. And sometimes something happened, and nobody quite knows how to be together in it.
This work is specialized, assessment-driven, and focused on understanding what the system learned it had to do, what those patterns were trying to accomplish, and what everyone wants to choose from here. It is a distinct service from care for children and teens.
WHAT THIS WORK LOOKS AT
Something happened. Everyone adapted. Those adaptations now interact with one another.
This work doesn't require deciding who the problem is.
We can look at what is happening between you: the roles people have taken on, what happens when someone becomes overwhelmed, what gets said and what doesn't, where people lose one another, and what each person may need in order for the family to respond differently.
The work follows a sequence. First, we honor the adaptation, because what the family learned to do made sense at the time. Then we understand its function, what those roles or patterns were trying to accomplish. Then we look at what happens between people now, when those adaptations meet each other. From there, the work is about increasing choice and agency, and practicing something different in the actual relationship.
The roles people take on.
One person may have become the responsible one. The fixer. The peacekeeper. The person everyone worries about. The person who gets angry. The person who disappears. The person who keeps everyone connected.
These roles are not pathology. They developed for a reason, and they were trying to accomplish something. The point is to become curious about why they developed and whether they are still serving the family.
Who this may include.
This work may involve adult children and parents, siblings, blended and multigenerational family systems, extended family, coparents, polycules and multi-partner relationships, and other multi-adult systems dealing with entrenched conflict, rupture, trauma, major transitions, or recurring patterns.
Not everyone necessarily participates in every session. Who is in the room is something we decide together based on what the work actually requires.
What brings families here.
These are some of the reasons families reach out. Not a checklist, and not a diagnosis directory.
- Estrangement or wanting to reconnect
- Grief and loss
- Chronic or serious illness
- Caregiving
- Mental health concerns affecting the larger family
- Military or service transitions
- Major family transitions
- Family-of-origin patterns
- Conflict or communication patterns
- Changing roles
- Boundaries
- Parenting and coparenting
- Ruptures in relationships
- Families trying to function differently after something significant has happened
We'll start with a conversation.
Tell me what's happening between you, who's involved, and what you wish could be different. You don't have to sort it all out before we talk.
We'll start with a consultation. If we move forward, we'll take more time to understand the relationships and what keeps happening before deciding how to work together.
Taking time to understand what’s happening.
We’ll look at what keeps happening between you, what each person is experiencing, and what you want to change. There’s room for different perspectives. I’ll help make sense of the bigger picture and talk with you about how we might work together.
It may include meeting together and individual conversations with the people participating.
FEES
What does care cost?
I know cost matters when you're deciding what is realistic for your family.
After the assessment, I'll explain what I'm recommending, how I would structure the work, and what you can expect it to cost. I won't ask you to choose a treatment package before we understand what the relationship system actually needs.
Payment options
How you can pay
Payment plans can be arranged directly with me. Secure checkout also offers card, digital-wallet, bank-payment, and third-party installment options. Available methods vary by transaction and eligibility and are shown at checkout.
Payment plans arranged with me
A payment plan is an agreement between you and me. No outside lender is involved, no interest is added by a third party, and the schedule is confirmed with you in writing before it begins.
Third-party financing
The installment options at checkout are offered by outside providers. Approval, the number of payments, any interest, and the terms are set by that provider, and they are separate from anything arranged with me.
Card and digital wallets
Visa, Mastercard, American Express, and Discover, plus Apple Pay, Google Pay, Link, and Amazon Pay where your device and account support them.
Bank payments
ACH bank debit and Pay by Bank, where your bank supports them. Bank payments can take several business days to settle.
Third-party installment options
Affirm, Afterpay, Klarna, and Zip. Approval, the plans offered, any interest, and the terms are set by each provider, not by the practice.
Nothing is charged without your agreement, and the amount due is confirmed with you before any payment is taken.
Room to work together.
I work with adult families and multi-partner relationships in ongoing therapy and intensives. We’ll talk about what you want help with and how much time makes sense for the work.
A relationship intensive is a more concentrated, individually designed episode of work. The two-day structure, roughly five clinical hours per day with appropriate breaks, is the default when an intensive is clinically appropriate. The three-day structure is recommended when the complexity, history, number of relationships, trauma, or treatment goals indicate that more time is appropriate. Both include a 90-minute post-intensive integration and follow-up appointment.
These are not tiers, and the longer option is not an upgrade. I recommend the structure that fits the clinical need. There is no direct booking option for a relationship intensive, because that decision is clinical.
This work can fit alongside care that’s already helping.
One or more people involved may already have a trusted individual therapist. When it makes sense, I can focus specifically on the relationships between them while established individual care stays in place.
Sometimes that defined relational piece is exactly what has been missing.
Where this understanding comes from.
My understanding of families did not begin in private practice. My professional history includes work in child welfare and CPS conservatorship, corrections, hospice, and VA and Vet Center settings, with couples and families in circumstances where relationships were under significant pressure.
My training in trauma, attachment, relational work, couples, perinatal, dissociation, and systems-oriented approaches informs the work. Modalities are tools in service of the work, and they come second to understanding what your family actually needs.
Start with a conversation.
Tell me what’s happening, who is involved, and what you hope could be different. We’ll start there.