You don’t know where you end and everyone else begins.
You know what people need from you. What they expect. What will happen if you don’t get it done.
But when someone asks what you want, you don’t know how to answer. You’re so used to accounting for everyone else that it’s hard to hear yourself.
I want to know what this is like for you. You don’t have to figure yourself out before we meet.
You’re managing everyone, and being managed, too.
You keep track of what needs doing, how people are feeling, and what might happen if something goes wrong.
At the same time, someone is telling you how to do it. What you missed. How you should have handled it. You’re responsible for keeping things going, but someone else gets to decide whether you did enough.
You’re tired of being corrected when you’re already trying so hard.
You can’t seem to catch up.
You spend the day doing things and still feel like you failed. Sometimes someone says it directly. Sometimes you’re waiting for the criticism before it even comes.
You try harder. Get more organized. Anticipate more. There’s still something left undone.
You want to make a choice without having to defend it. Ask for something without preparing an explanation for why you’re allowed to need it.
Even rest feels like another assignment.
You’re exhausted, but stopping doesn’t feel simple. You expect to pay for it later, with more work, someone’s anger, or guilt you can’t quiet.
Even sleep becomes a checklist item. Something you need to get right so you can wake up and keep going.
You want to rest without feeling like you’ve done something wrong.
If motherhood is part of this.
You may struggle to separate what you want from what you think a good mother should want.
You can spend so much time trying to meet everyone’s needs that your own feelings become another problem to manage. Anger. Resentment. Wanting space. Missing parts of your life, or yourself.
Your children may be little or grown. You may still be trying to find yourself outside what they need from you.
My work with mothers is informed by Mothercentered, developed by Jessica Tomich Sorci. I’ve completed the foundational training and am continuing the certification process.
There’s room for you here.
We can pay attention to what happens when you disagree, need something, or stop doing what’s expected.
You may not know what you want yet. You may know and be afraid of what it would cost to say it.
You can bring either. I want to hear from you, including the parts of you that don’t have an answer ready.
Working with me
I work with women through groups, focused intensives, and other specialized care.
I see clients in person in San Antonio and New Braunfels, and virtually in Texas, Oregon, Colorado, and Washington.
SFT is private-pay and does not provide superbills. See Fees + FAQs for pricing and practical details.
Tell me what you’ve been carrying.
We can start with what’s happening now, what you’re tired of, and what you want to be different.